Wow! Reading some of those statistics from Amy's post is quite an eye opener. I always new Porn was a problem, but it is getting worse and worse. Not only that, but it is becoming a norm.
I heard in church a couple years ago that 95% of boys currently under the age of 18 will go into a marriage addicted to porn. I know many people affected by it and too many people, including some churches are ignoring it because "everyone does it" and "it's a normal thing". Someone called in a radio station today that was talking about what you are doing to get ahead in these bad economic times. The person said he was selling himself to get money to pay the mortgage!(and he was married) YIKES! The dj's thought that was a great idea and started asking questions on how it worked.
How do we protect our children from this growing industry and a world that tolerates everything? I am not the kind of parent that wants to keep my kids in a bubble. I truly believe that if you are out there in the real world, that is how you learn to rely on God. However, I think as a parent, it is my job to help them understand why a life following after God gives them freedoms to be who they were made to be.
Is it bad for a ten year old to watch a sex scene in a movie? Is it OK for a 12 year old to watch PG13? Well, are we setting them up for failure in a marriage when they do watch these scenes that portrays sex to be no big deal? Does it set their expectations to high so that when they do get married they have to turn to porn because they aren't having sex everyday or it wasn't as good as it looked on TV?
It sure makes me think about being to "non-legalistic" as some people would call it.
What about the opposite spectrum where you tell your kids that sex is bad their whole life and then when they get married they have intimacy issues. How can something be so bad for 20 some years and then in one night it is all OK? Or the emphasis on sex and no one talking about the other aspects of your sexuality. So they kids grow up thinking they have the freedom to do anything, as long as they don't have sex they are OK.
I think as christian parents, there has to be a happy medium. An open line of communication between you and your children.
I obviously don't have the answers, but it is really something I will have to be in prayer about when those times come for our family.
I pray for you this week, parent or not, that if you have little ones in your life, you will take the step of talking to your kids. Be honest with them and it might just open a door of communication that could save your kid a lot of hurt as he/she grows up.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Purity in this Society
Viewpoint of Queen Coley at 12:00 AM
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Great stuff Coley - reminds be to be mindful with my young nieces. It is frustrating how basic network television is getting more and more raunchy. We laugh at the days when The Cleaver parents had to have seperate beds on TV but in reality we are at the opposite extreme now and it's just gone too far. It's so easy to just gloss over it and say that's just how it is but we need to be mindful and responsible every day!!
wow...i am 16 years old and to find that 95% of teen boys are gonna marry with a porn addiction...wow...that just shocks me...and even disgusts me!
i guess i'm one of those rare girls who understand when sex is not ok [outside of marriage] and when sex is ok [with your spouse only]. i grew up in a Christian home, going to church all my life, and i learned the meaning of abstinence when i was like 12 or 13. and, i must admit, my youth group and pastor [ryan] are very good at explaining this sort of thing.
don't worry about every teen...there are some good ones out there :)
I am so blessed by your prespective Coley. As you know full well I have dealt with this deamon and God has blessed us with the opportunity to share it as a testimony. We have a great responsibility as parents to Baylor to explain to him both the man God desires him to be and what he will face as challenges in this world. Those will be expressed verbally, but also in our daily actions with one another and others as well. I love you and would not ask for a better example for our son!!
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